By choosing to be in a relationship with another human being, you have chosen to experience conflict. Between differing parenting in childhood, adverse life experiences, and past dating experiences, even the most compatible people will have a stark contrast of opinions with something. Some researchers have found that lasting, healthy marriages have a 5:1 ratio of positive to negative interactions—that is five positives for every one negative (Benson, 2022). Instead of hoping to avoid conflict for the rest of our lives, we should adopt a more positive view of conflict where we see it as an opportunity instead of a failure.